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Stress management: How to cope with personal and professional stress

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Nowadays, it becomes more difficult to be immune to stress. Whether caused by personal problems, professional pressure or unwanted events in life, it is vital to learn how to manage personal and professional stress. In this occasion I decided not to dig into research on the subject but rather write from my own experience. Below I share thoughts that have helped me throughout my life to manage personal and professional stress, especially after tragic events at the family level. I hope my experience help others to cope with stress and be positive. At the end, life never presents us tests that we cannot overcome.

What is stress and how to identify it

Stress is the physical and psychological tension that we experience when we demand from our body and mind a performance beyond of what is expected. Throughout my life I have described stress as a state in which the body and mind are interrupted and overwhelmed by an event, thought, feeling or plan.

Identifying stress turns out not to be as difficult as many expect. What I have seen more complicated is to recognize it as part of our life and start the process of combating it. In today’s society, stress appears as something normal in our lives, however it takes conscious and courage to o think about its consequences and the way it wastes our body. Instead of taking the stress as an excuse for our aggressive behavior, our fatigue or our health problems, it is better to identify it and learn to handle it in all areas of our lives.

The stress manifests itself in various ways; from my personal experience and what I have seen in others, it has manifested physically and emotionally, for example:

Physical symptoms:

  • Headache, particularly right after  waking up (quite frustrating!)
  • Physical tiredness
  • Lack of appetite, aberration to a meal or addiction to others
  • Stomach pain, bad digestion
  • Weight gain without any explanation

Mental symptoms:

  • General fear or fear for something specific
  • Nightmares or strange dreams, in many cases referring to the cause of stress
  • Unexplained anxiety
  • Lack of time becomes an obsession
  • Bad mood with things of daily life
  • Painful self-criticism (nothing healthy for self-esteem!)

If you have experienced any of these symptoms and you wonder about the causes, I would suggest as a first step to consider if you are suffering of stress. Particularly in the case of physical symptoms, many of us think that we suffer from a new sickness, when in fact the diagnosis is as simple as stress.

A point to clarify here: all the symptoms mentioned above occur sporadically and of course not all at once. If you see constant patterns in your behavior, turn on your alarms! Avoiding sadness and depression is fundamental.

How to cope with personal and professional stress

Personal stress can be caused by several reasons: atraumatic event that marked your life, conflicts with friends, relationship conflicts, changes in life, health problems, physical or emotional pain, etc.

Similar to personal stress, professional stress is caused by several reasons too: new job, new boss, new responsibilities, goals that seem impossible to fulfill, etc. In some cases, professional stress can be more disturbing than professional stress. Money is necessary in the current society, hence situations such as reaching goals to get a job bonus, unemployment or being fired cause more impact than breaking up with your high-school sweetheart.

Fortunately I have not experienced serious professional or personal stress. I would even tend to say that the stress in my life has been caused by my perfectionism and sometimes addiction to work. I decided to share here my experience by mentioning some tips related to important episodes that I have lived in my life. The recommendations written below do not have medical or professional support. As I mentioned earlier, I decided to write this article based only on my experience.

If you want to share more tips based on your life or from your perspective as a professional, leave your comments below or write to info@tintohub.com. I will be happy to share your knowledge in a future article.

How to cope with the death of a loved one

 In two episodes of my life, I have faced situationsrelated to the death of a loved one: when I was 7 years old with the death ofmy grandpa, and when I was 27 years old with the death of my mother. Whichepisode hurt me more? It’s inexplicable. Due to time and memories, it ismuch easier for me to share my experience regarding my mom’s death. First ofall because she used to be my best friend and confidant, and second because Ido not really remember the events and way I coped with the death of my grandfather.

The points I describe below come from my thoughts and way of seeing life. They have no psychological source, neither spiritual and mental guidance. If we own some credit to the thoughts below, I would give them to the way my mom raised me:

  • Focus the energy on positive memories of the person: both, my mom and my grandpa died of cancer (not very pleasant, neither fair for them or the family) so it is normal to have images of pain, frustration and sadness trapped in the brain. When the loved ones are already resting from all the suffering, it is good to focus on canalizing the remaining energy towards happy memories. With my mother, for example, I may not be able to completely forget the moments in the hospital or ICU, but I can choose to voluntarily remember her with her smile, enjoying coffee, traveling and talking with me about how beautiful life is.
  • Let them go: regardless of the religion in which you believe, when a person dies, he/she leaves energy behind. When you are very close to the person who died, that energy is focused on you, in your strenght to continue with life or your pain. I grew up with the thought of “letting people go once they die”, or as many religions refer to it, “let them rest in peace”. In my case, my mom was exceptional and she prepared me to live without her. Of course it’s hard! I miss her like never before, but I’m not selfish to keep her tied to me and my life.
  • Cry to overcome pain, not to cling to it: humans cry because something hurts physically or emotionally. Even though I could not cry at my mom’s funeral (and I can imagine how I was judged me for that!), when I miss her it is usual for me to get nostalgic and cry. The important thing is to be responsible and take those tears as an opportunity to grow and overcome the situation, not to make it a habit. My mom never liked to see me cry, so I think the less it happens, the better I honor her memory and lessons.
  • Find a way to overcome the situation and adapt: ​​it is important to digest the new situation in life, accept it and remember that this special person is not with you anymore. In my case it helped me a lot to see the photos of my mother’s last trip, select them and print some of them to decorate my house. In the case of other people, to visit favorite common places, or clean the house from memories helps. While I checked the photos of my mom and me, I remembered all the fantastic moments together and the exceptional relationship we had. After she passed away, I feel I gained an angel more taking care of me or an inexplicable energy that makes me stronger than before.
  • Do not collapse, on the contrary face the reality with courage: I was always taught to move forward and fight for my dreams no matter how difficult they are. The moment when my mom died was not the best, many of my professional dreams were dependent on my mental strength. I had two options: I let myself fail or I go ahead and I make her proud. I opted for the second; whenever she is, she should be smiling and proud of me.
  • Do not lie to yourself, instead prepare for the future: this is linked to my experience with my mom and her cancer. We all tend to lie to ourselves and hang on to hope that not even doctors can find. Instead of thinking about an unreal future, focus on enjoying the time with your loved one. If the story has a sad ending, your conscience will be calm and your soul will be serene.

How to manage conflicts with colleagues

At work there are always conflicts; even if it is the cutest tiniest startup full of sweet employees, there are situations where not everybody thinks the same. In my case, conflicts with my co-workers have been caused by differences in management style and leadership, or conflicts related to the way we cope with deadlines. Despite being good friends or acquaintances in personal life, professional life brings more challenges and conflicts of interest. The important thing is to be mature enough not to let the personal side influence in the professional side and viceversa.

Here are some things that have helped me keep the situation under control:

  • Practice the empathy: in the same way that I have my point of view and my “personal demons” each person has them. Whenever there is a conflict or discrepancy of opinions I try to think about the reasons why my colleague feels bad. Putting yourself in the shoes of the other helps to lower the fumes and therefore your stress after feeling offended.
  • Try to understand the others as best as you can: we all think differently and act based on our thoughts. It is better to leave aside criticism and invest your time in understanding. Personally I like to ask in a direct or indirect way the reason for things. Once you know the cause of the reactions and attitudes of others, you can see their behavior from another point of view. I have been surprised to discover and been able to understand the real causes why colleagues sabotage projects or use “indirect” speeches during meetings.
  • Find moments outside the office to talk with those involved in the discussion: in many times the work environment makes a conflict worse. Especially in the case where the stress is derived from work pressure, conversations in the office environment do not contribute to a peaceful solution of the conflict.
  • Do not take comments personal: there will be multiple moments where your colleagues go over the line with comments or attitudes. The key for me has been to take these comments as impersonal and justify them with reasonale factors in the life of my colleague. For example: what if he is currently handling frustration at home or bad arguments with his/her children. Whether or not these justifications are true, the technique helps reduce stress and bad vibes.
  • Define limits and moral parameters for yourself and follow them: either because of conflicts with colleagues or other kind of situations, work life requires decisions. I have saved myself a lot of stress by defining in advance who I am, what image I want to reflect at work, what my objectives are and what my limits are. The best thing you can do for yourself is to have a clear conscience. (This must also be applied to personal life!)

How to handle the pressure to achieve professional goals

Leading a team brings along responsibilities. In my case, the pressure to obtain quarterly or monthly results has been a challenge to handle, especially being a perfectionist and devoted to my professional development.

Below I share tactics that have helped me keep stress under control, avoid it and concentrate on working with enthusiasm:

  • Keep an agenda for “to-dos” and “already-done”: I have always criticized my ability to manage time and be very efficient. In some cases this characteristic of my personality leads me to have more stress. Having two lists to see what I have to do and what I have already achieved has helped me to feel triumphant. It’s great to see how my list of achievements increases, it makes me feel productive and reminds me of my potential.
  • Take breaks more often if your work allows it: if you are stressed by deadlines and goals, divide your daily work into small periods of productive time. It has worked very well for me to schedule my days with activities that last between 1 or maximum 2 hours. Once I finish an activity I move away from my desk to have a cup of coffee, lunch, drink water, or just clear my mind for 5 minutes. In this way the level of concentration for the next activity is better.
  • Manage your list of priorities very well: if you know what results you should obtain, then organize your agenda with activities that relate to that goal. Of course you will have routine activities that are not linked to obtaining your quotas and work goals, however this is not an excuse to waste time and motivation. Having clear priorities helps you decide what to do next.
  • Eat healthy, especially snacks that help your brain: if I’m using my brain more than normal, it’s best to feed it to produce more ideas and avoid fatigue, right? Nuts, fish, avocados, tomatoes and strawberries has helped me stay well.
  • Respect your daily free time: no matter how much work I have, I always respect my 2 hours of tranquility in solitude. In my hectic life, I need to respect the few hours of my “alone time” after sharing spaces with others at office and during meetings. Every day I reserve at least two hours to be with myself doing something that I like or whatever I decide to do alone: ​​write, watch series, watch movies, read, exercise, walk, write this blog, brainstorming for work, etc. everything counts as long as I am alone. These 2 hours do not have to be consecutive or at the same time every day, what I value is the silence and tranquility to recharge energy and continue positive.

Live a happy and positive life

Regardless of the cause of stress, I try always to keep a positive mind and focus all my energy in my dreams. I see stress as a barrier to achieve what you really want, therefore whenever I identify a symptom of it, I stop along the way and try to erradicate it as soon as possible. I invite you all to do the same and never let stress take advantage until irreversible consequences such as a chronic illness or a bad decision. Life is too beautiful to waste it!

I decided to write about this topic from a personalangle because I want to see people around me be happy and achieve their goals.I hope this article has helped you and inspired you. If you have suggestionsabout topics for the next article write to lucial@tintohub.com or leave your comments below. Thanks for staying connected to TintoHub!c

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12/04/2019 17:13

I spent a great deal of time to locate something like this

Bhuvi Kumar
03/06/2019 08:03

These are some amazing Stress relieving tips for people who take a lot of personal and professional stress. With the demands of work, family, and society, stress can sometimes wear the best of us. Not being able to manage stress properly poses not only a risk to our health but also to our relationships. Although we may not have control over external stressors, however, we have total control over how to treat it. One should read this article to manage their stress. Thank you for posting this blog.

Patrick Salazar
11/10/2019 14:15

Personal and professional stress can make your life hell. Loss of job, divorce, anger, guilt, low self-esteem- are the causes of personal stress. Likewise, long work hours, heavy workload, tight deadlines, job insecurity, lack of autonomy, unwanted changes within the organization- are some of the typical causes of professional stress. Keeping yourself indulged in physical activity, getting more sleep- will reduce your personal stress. Since workplace itself is the biggest source of stress, so you need to identify the stressors to overcome workplace pressure.

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